art education in the family is now very difficult. Many parents are suffering, indeed, a sense of loneliness, inadequacy and even impotence. It is a primarily social isolation, because the company favors individuals and does not consider the family as its basic unit. Fathers and mothers struggling to bring the underlying reasons for living with passion and, above all, to say 'no' with the authority needed. The bond with children is likely to oscillate between the poor cura e atteggiamenti possessivi che tendono a soffocarne la creatività e a perpetuarne la dipendenza. Occorre ritrovare la virtù della fortezza nell’assumere e sostenere decisioni fondamentali, pur nella consapevolezza che altri soggetti dispongono di mezzi potenti, in grado di esercitare un’influenza penetrante. La famiglia, a un tempo, è forte e fragile. La sua debolezza non deriva solo da motivi interni alla vita della coppia e al rapporto tra genitori e figli. Molto più pesanti sono i condizionamenti esterni: il sostegno inadeguato al desiderio di maternità e paternità, pur a fronte del grave problema demografico; la difficoltà a conciliare l’impegno lavorativo con la vita familiare, to take care of the weakest, to build peaceful relations in housing and urban conditions. (36)
will be for a jolt of paranoia, it will be a memory of some unidentified sermon cited in the script for the occasion and played bored the other side of the pulpit, it will be the fear of ecclesiastical rhetoric at times monotonous on the defense of non-negotiable values, such as the family always appears - rhetoric for its own sake are not followed very often prophetic gestures and stances against an unusual all what today offers in Italy close to families as the lack of home or a job that goes beyond the temporary employment - but when it comes to speaking of family I always feel a little embarrassed, last but not least, because those who do not talk about his family has it. I then think that the best examples are the many families I know who I could not mention one by one: grandparents who are carrying on with dignity and with many efforts, including economic, management of things at home, first of all, the 'education of children, spouses who continue to bet on that yes promise beyond conceivable scenario sometimes, despite the temptation to give up and flee the coup is very strong, parents che credono alla vita e pagano a volte il prezzo altissimo dell’ordinarietà con rinunce e compromessi; figli che sognano un domani non lasciandosi smantellare pezzo per pezzo la propria scala di valori.
Resistere, un verbo che fa eco al numero del documento dei vescovi ora proposto
Resistere nell’ amarsi … perché l’amore è ciò che conta realmente anche quando non ha la maschera esuberante e travolgente degli inizi perché è chiamato a farsi profondo. Ci sono spazi di crisi, momenti in cui ti guardi alle spalle, ti sembra di raccogliere poco nel palmo delle mani e ti chiedi che cosa hai costruito, e se ha still makes sense to believe in the dream that led you to share everything with the person selected. But the storm passed and the wind is calm, you understand that it was worth . I wish you all true love, like Montale who tells in this poem dedicated to the memory of his wife
I fell, giving the arm, at least one million stairs / and now that you're not there is a vacuum at each step. Even so it was about our long journey / My hard still, or I need more connections, reservations, / traps, the scorn of those who believe that reality is what you see / I have dropped millions of stairs giving the arm, not because to-face may be seen more. / With you I've got two of us because I knew that the only real eyes, though so blurry, they were yours.
withstand the test of 'educating because it is never by chance that a child is placed high goals and try to reach them at the cost of great sacrifice. There is an educational desert that we and only we can fill. Let us not be cynicism that sometimes freezes relations between parents and children: the children need solid footings and roots and not ruthless judges; banned simplifications: it is true that today it is easier to be children or that there are more values to dictate the choices - the values, moreover, can not be improvised but is received as a treasure and puts them to good use.
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